Gosh, this is exactly what I needed to read on a Sunday afternoon and I cannot wait to share it with my partner. A milestone recently that actually mattered (but is not on LinkedIn) was performing in the Rio Show, which is an adult dance community showcase. Even more risqué... I was in burlesque and we had to unbutton our shirts and strip them off while still dancing! Six months ago I would not have been that bold (nor brave) but today I can say I am! :D
Thank you so much for this Andi! It truly means the world to me that this piece resonated with you and that you're sharing it with your partner!
What an absolutely incredible milestone. Stepping onto that stage and finding a whole new level of boldness and bravery is huge. It is the perfect example of a profound, real-life win that doesn't fit into a standard LinkedIn update, but matters so much more on your actual clock.
Thank you for trusting me with your time, for reading my work, and for sharing your progress. Keep celebrating those real milestones!
I love your perspective. What's mattered most to me is posting consistently on Sunstack for about a year now. No need to announce it on LinkedIn. Just happy to see how far I've come with Worthy by Design.
Such a timely read, the bit about family specifically. On a similar career change journey myself, trying to pursue something more creative and finding a frustration when people in my family have the audacity to check in on me and ask how things are going! 😂
Need to remind myself of this next time it happens and talk about some of the progress I feel like I'm making personally instead of getting defensive or saying "not a lot to report".
One of my favorite trainers practice is slowing time down! I don’t know how she does it, but the whole mindset is amazing and that something I’m working on. Because when we practice slowing time down, it does something wild to the nervous system. I’m trying to share my experiences with interleaving this into my reset lab philosophy of life. You are not alone here. Happy Sunday!✨🌿🩶
Thank you for sharing and I love that you brought this up! Slowing time down is such a powerful practice. When we consciously pause and root ourselves in the present moment, it sends a massive safety signal to the nervous system and shifts us out of that constant 'go' mode and into a state of rest and clarity. I'm so glad to hear you're weaving this into the Reset Lab philosophy. It’s exactly what we all need right now! ✨
I’ve never been on the “correct” time line. From an early age I just didn’t see meaning in the same things as family and friends.
Achieving, winning, keeping up all felt wrong. I graduated HS early, but worked for a few years and entered college late. I studied whatever I wanted for 3 years at a community college because I still didn’t have a direction. I graduated university years older than my peers. I didn’t have relationships until I was 21 or marry until into my mid 30’s.
I never worked in the field of my degree. I didn’t own a home until my 50’s. I moved around the country to follow jobs because they were interesting or challenging, not because they were a linear progression.
I never could turn off my own “alarm” that went off whenever I wandered off my own path and it was frustrating and angering to my family. I never accumulated a large friend group because of it. People couldn’t relate or were envious of my “freedom”.
My milestone for this week was meeting someone 22 years my junior and not walking away. Enjoying him and just letting it vibe. Definitely a new direction for me and I love it for what it’s giving me and for reaffirming that my own path is the only one for me.
I needed this so much Katie. I’m making progress with what I want to do which is create a writing substack but by the ‘borrowed clock’ I feel like I’m not making progress at all. It’s like I’m fighting with myself to say it’s okay to go toward my dream even if it feels like I’m not making much progress , I know I’m making some.
I think I’ve been using my own clock for most of my career. Of course the envy part is real, Ngl. But I’ve always been able to pursue or do something that interests me. Even in the worst job I had, where I was forced to do technical sales, when the role was supposed to be technical lead. I managed to learn something out of it. I don’t know how it happened to me, but when I was learning something, it always made the time go fast, which meant I was having fun.
Each job I had, I was able to have fun. It’s always the managements that somehow take the fun away. Perhaps it is as you said, I was measuring things using my own clock and that was in contradiction with the management and that’s why I had to keep looking for new companies instead. 🤭
Great observations Katie, thank you for sharing. Comparison plays a big role in the borrowed clock and a topic I’ve written about recently that you might find of interest. Check it out! https://pasthenoise.substack.com/p/the-comparison-machine
Gosh, this is exactly what I needed to read on a Sunday afternoon and I cannot wait to share it with my partner. A milestone recently that actually mattered (but is not on LinkedIn) was performing in the Rio Show, which is an adult dance community showcase. Even more risqué... I was in burlesque and we had to unbutton our shirts and strip them off while still dancing! Six months ago I would not have been that bold (nor brave) but today I can say I am! :D
Thank you so much for this Andi! It truly means the world to me that this piece resonated with you and that you're sharing it with your partner!
What an absolutely incredible milestone. Stepping onto that stage and finding a whole new level of boldness and bravery is huge. It is the perfect example of a profound, real-life win that doesn't fit into a standard LinkedIn update, but matters so much more on your actual clock.
Thank you for trusting me with your time, for reading my work, and for sharing your progress. Keep celebrating those real milestones!
Will do! Keep shipping great work.
I love your perspective. What's mattered most to me is posting consistently on Sunstack for about a year now. No need to announce it on LinkedIn. Just happy to see how far I've come with Worthy by Design.
Yes this! there’s so much power in quiet consistency. I love this shift from performative updates to just being quietly proud of what you’re building.
Such a timely read, the bit about family specifically. On a similar career change journey myself, trying to pursue something more creative and finding a frustration when people in my family have the audacity to check in on me and ask how things are going! 😂
Need to remind myself of this next time it happens and talk about some of the progress I feel like I'm making personally instead of getting defensive or saying "not a lot to report".
Important to land on your own pace. This is something I had to really focus on as I navigate adulthood - there’s no right or wrong timing.
Absolutely this! Totally hear you, it’s something that has become top of mind for me daily. It’s important to embrace our own timeline!
This is great, Katie! Thank you.
Thank you for reading!!
I’m so glad we connected. ❤️ Reading your message actually reminded me why I created the Daily Reset Experience.
It’s a simple five-minute guided reset to help women reconnect with themselves before the day takes over.
I immediately thought of you while we were talking. If you’d like, I’d be happy to send you the link. No pressure at all. 🤍
One of my favorite trainers practice is slowing time down! I don’t know how she does it, but the whole mindset is amazing and that something I’m working on. Because when we practice slowing time down, it does something wild to the nervous system. I’m trying to share my experiences with interleaving this into my reset lab philosophy of life. You are not alone here. Happy Sunday!✨🌿🩶
Thank you for sharing and I love that you brought this up! Slowing time down is such a powerful practice. When we consciously pause and root ourselves in the present moment, it sends a massive safety signal to the nervous system and shifts us out of that constant 'go' mode and into a state of rest and clarity. I'm so glad to hear you're weaving this into the Reset Lab philosophy. It’s exactly what we all need right now! ✨
I’ve never been on the “correct” time line. From an early age I just didn’t see meaning in the same things as family and friends.
Achieving, winning, keeping up all felt wrong. I graduated HS early, but worked for a few years and entered college late. I studied whatever I wanted for 3 years at a community college because I still didn’t have a direction. I graduated university years older than my peers. I didn’t have relationships until I was 21 or marry until into my mid 30’s.
I never worked in the field of my degree. I didn’t own a home until my 50’s. I moved around the country to follow jobs because they were interesting or challenging, not because they were a linear progression.
I never could turn off my own “alarm” that went off whenever I wandered off my own path and it was frustrating and angering to my family. I never accumulated a large friend group because of it. People couldn’t relate or were envious of my “freedom”.
My milestone for this week was meeting someone 22 years my junior and not walking away. Enjoying him and just letting it vibe. Definitely a new direction for me and I love it for what it’s giving me and for reaffirming that my own path is the only one for me.
A relieving read, thank you. Appreciate you naming and reframing this.
I needed this so much Katie. I’m making progress with what I want to do which is create a writing substack but by the ‘borrowed clock’ I feel like I’m not making progress at all. It’s like I’m fighting with myself to say it’s okay to go toward my dream even if it feels like I’m not making much progress , I know I’m making some.
I think I’ve been using my own clock for most of my career. Of course the envy part is real, Ngl. But I’ve always been able to pursue or do something that interests me. Even in the worst job I had, where I was forced to do technical sales, when the role was supposed to be technical lead. I managed to learn something out of it. I don’t know how it happened to me, but when I was learning something, it always made the time go fast, which meant I was having fun.
Each job I had, I was able to have fun. It’s always the managements that somehow take the fun away. Perhaps it is as you said, I was measuring things using my own clock and that was in contradiction with the management and that’s why I had to keep looking for new companies instead. 🤭
Great observations Katie, thank you for sharing. Comparison plays a big role in the borrowed clock and a topic I’ve written about recently that you might find of interest. Check it out! https://pasthenoise.substack.com/p/the-comparison-machine